The misconceptions about white people

Dear black South Africans

There are two popular misconceptions that I have seen a lot lately.

The first being that if white people were to leave South Africa then things would suddenly become amazing and black people would live fully dignified lives and poverty would be eradicated.

People paint this wonderful WAKANDA-esque utopian dream. The reality is that most African countries were colonised. The colonisers then left those countries… yet the indigenous populations do not live picture perfect lives. They are riddled with inequality — it’s just not along racial lines.

The second misconception is that if white people were to leave South Africa everything would go to sh*t and that there would be no food nor would there be an economy to speak of.

The idea that South Africa is propped up by white farmers and that white people are the only taxpayers is lazy thinking at best. Do people really believe that it’s the white farmers who are planting every crop and tending to the acres of land? Surely not.

The key thing that both these misconceptions seem to miss is that colonisation wasn’t a moment in time or an event. It was decades of systemic disadvantage, looting of resources and labour. It entrenched so many of the systems we continue to accept as being correct or the “only way”. It divided nations along imaginary lines called borders. It was divide and conquer in the literal sense.

The legacy of colonisation is still rampant in almost every country. The systems of governance that took over after colonisation ended did very little to change how power and wealth is distributed in the societies.

You STILL have a ruling elite, which is a minority, that hold political power and that benefits from the continual looting of Africa’s resources. The leaders accept bribes while the real wealth is stolen from beneath the earth.

You still have people who were once members of the same tribe who now treat each other like enemies because of those same imaginary lines from the Berlin conference. The distrust, the animosity, the lack of UBUNTU.

South Africa still has a disproportionate amount of its wealth in the hands of the few. South Africa also has one of the best constitutions and legal frameworks that could facilitate a change and redistribution of wealth.

So what’s the problem? The issue is that white people aren’t the only beneficiaries of this system, no. The political elite benefits more and more and they are unwilling to let go of their unearned privilege either. They are unwilling to admit that their looting is just as cruel and selfish as the regime that came before.

Our leaders do not want to stand in front of the mirror and confront the fact that if we carry on in this direction 400 years from now Africa will still be the playground of the west and by then we cannot blame colonisation but rather weak leadership and corruption.

We have a long road ahead of us but it’s a road we must all walk because we owe it to our ancestors who didn’t even dare to dream of freedom in their lifetime.

Kind Regards
Busi Mjiyakho

Dear Africans

Dear Africans

As Africans we need to realise that the longer we remain divided, the more we allow the world to exploit and mistreat us. We hold such ill feelings of mistrust based in borders sketched out by those that only benefit from our chaos.

Black people are constantly subjected to racism because there are no repercussions for mistreating us. In fact we even mistreat each other. Whenever we find ourselves in these belittling situations, the guilty party doesn’t face sanctions, nor punishments. Not even a symbolic smack on the hand.

Nothing. It is normalised. Business as usual.

So Africa is doomed to be the playground the world gets to enjoy while its inhabitants suffer.

No more.

Our leaders really need to learn how to cooperate for the benefit of the people. The African Union is a mere shadow of its full potential.

Africa is home to most of the world’s natural resources. Africa feeds the world. We have more power than we know.

Our leaders need to do better. They need to make it known to the world that the inhumane treatment of Africans anywhere in the world won’t be tolerated. It is inhumane and unforgivable.

Kind Regards
Busi Mjiyakho
Future leader

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Passion Project

One of my biggest goals and passion projects, that I want to achieve within the next 5 years, is to create an after school centre for high school girls.

I want to create a safe space for girls to be able to go and hang out after class. I want them to be able to do their homework and get assistance where necessary.
I want the space to have uncapped WIFI.
I want there to be printers.
I want to have someone who can help these girls perfect their CVs.
I want there to be resources for these girls to get skills.
I want there to be a dedicated team of people who will help these girls apply for university and help them get funding too.

I would also like to get an inspirational womxn to come in every month to give the girls tips, motivation and guidance.

I would like to have a handful of ladies who will be life long mentors for these girls. I have a few people in mind already for this. I want womxn from different career fields and various backgrounds.

I would like the girls who have successfully completed this high school program to become mentors themselves to the girls still in high school.

I want girls who may not have the greatest start in life to have a fair opportunity to make a better life for their families and communities.

I have been thinking about this project now for over 3 years. I haven’t had the resources to start and I don’t exactly have them now either but I would like to formally put it out there into the world.

So far I know that I want to have this centre in Durban, perhaps in Chesterville or Mayville which is close to where I grew up.

If anyone is interested in contributing to this by sharing their ideas, inputs and advice to me, please comment below. What factors do I need to consider when embarking on such a project? How can I ensure the safety of the girls? etc…

Dear ANC Supporters

Dear supporters of the #ANC, before you make an X today, please consider how destructive an outright majority is for our democracy. Even if you believe the ANC is the best party to govern, consider how relaxed and comfortable they are with their >60%.

What reasons do they have to change the way they govern, if the majority of people who live in informal settlements are still giving them the thumbs up? What reasons do they need to rid the party of corruption if those who are surviving on government grants, still support them? What reasons do they have to do what they promised us, if we are content with their current mediocrity?

A vote for the ANC is a vote for the status quo. Nothing changes.

Vote responsibly.

Kind Regards
Cost’of ABornfree


What is a rapist?

A problem I have with society is that when we picture rapists, we picture a hooded man in an alley or the creep from the bar who buys you a drink. We always have that very specific profile in mind when we think of sexual assault. We always assume the womxn did something silly or irresponsible to land herself in a vulnerable position. We always put the onus on the victims.

The truth is that rapists are our best friends, our lovers, the most popular guy in school, our lecturers, our fathers, our priests, our favourite R&B artists, our football icons, our favourite uncles (not Joshua Doore), our presidents and our teachers. The people we trust the most. The people who are held to the highest regard by society.

Statistics have proven time and time again that the ones who harm us are the ones we never expect it from. The ones who abuse us are the ones no one would believe could ever harm a fly.

Rapist and assaulters are predators who hide in plain sight.

The problem with society’s way of thinking is that it silences victims and survivors. Because when someone who is beloved by the family, friendship circle, community or the world, no one wants to believe that they are ever capable of such a thing and that you the womxn or little kid, did something to tempt them or to make them sway from their righteous path.

We fail the victims every single day. And that’s our fault because we publicly defend these perpetrators because they wrote our favourite song or because we know their parents or because they lead our teams to several premier league victories.

We need to do better.

Dear Citizens of the world: I demand more

Dear citizens of the world


I demand more from men, white people, cishet folks, able bodied people, wealthy people, educated people, citizens of this planet. We demand more. Just because you’re not adding to the problem, it doesn’t mean you’re contributing to the solution. Be the fvcking change you want to see in the world!


Saying you don’t rape womxn doesn’t do anything to impact the rape stats and it certainly doesn’t do jack sh!t to change the fact that victims are constantly blamed for someone else feeling entitled to their bodies. It does nothing to change the conversation from “what were you wearing?”, “how much did you drink?” or even “are you sure it was rape?”


Saying that you’re not racist does not balance the scales. Saying that you have black friends does nothing to wipe the prejudice from people’s minds. It does nothing to correct the injustices of the past, present and future.


Saying you aren’t homophobic does nothing for marriage equality. It does nothing to ensure the safety of members of the LGBTQIAPK+ community. Saying that you are ok with homosexuality but that you don’t want to see it actually adds to the problem and sends us 20 years backwards.


Saying you aren’t ableist but still using phrases such as “retarded”, “lame” and “psycho” is hella problematic. Saying you care about people who have disabilities doesn’t mean jack shit, if you organise movie nights without subtitles or at venues which aren’t wheelchair accessible.


We are all guilty of looking down on people who are less fortunate than us. We convince ourselves that we are more successful than them because of our hard work and determination. We spew nonsesene about all having the same 24 hours in a day when we know that is bull. Some of us don’t have to wake up at 4:30 in the morning in order to take public transport that will ensure we get to our 8am jobs on time. Some of us aren’t expected to work, study and look after a family all on our own. We convince ourselves that the system favours the smartest or the most hardworking even though its been proven to do the opposite. Our status and wealth no matter how little, makes us numb to the realities of those who fall below our tax bracket. Saying you pay tax doesn’t mean you’re a good person it simply means you’re following the law.


Saying that we are fighting for all people but insisting in using academic language when we talk about the struggles of the working class doesn’t make any difference if those we claim to be fighting for are left out of the conversation. It just makes us pretentious picks. The only thing separating some of us from cleaning the schools we attend, is a piece of paper.


I just demand more from every single person. Our inaction makes us complicit in so many crimes against humanity. Its not good enough to simply throw our hands up and proclaim innocence. The reason I call out all men, all white people, all cishet people, all able bodied people, all people well above the poverty line is because we are the ones who are gatekeepers. We are the ones who have the power to make a real difference, even if its on a small scale. Any step in the right direction is progress and that is my demand. That is my commitment. That is what drives me on a daily basis.


Kind Regards

Busi Mjiyakho

2019 South African general election

Not voting is like maintaining the status quo. It’s like looking at the current situation and saying “hmmm, oh well…” I know you have a choice to not partake in the elections but please remember that with this right, that so many people died so you could have it, comes with the responsibility to use it. Although we live in a participatory democracy, very few citizens actually take part in the shaping of our country’s laws and legislations. So every 5th year, you get the chance to elect those who can do it on your behalf. So I urge the youth to really take part in this expression of democracy, your vote counts. You matter.

Voting for the ANC to me just seems like the continuation of the current situation. Corruption, slow progress for the poor and luxury for those in power and their friends. We have seen no great change in the leadership even after Zuma was removed. The ANC seems content with relying on the leadership of fossils (seriously they are all 65+) and capitalists who hide behind the banner of socialism. So… no, thanks.

Voting for the DA is a big LOL. Because they are content with maintaining a high standard of living for those of the lighter persuasion. They boast about their province, municipalities and wards being well run meanwhile we know those areas have always been suburbs or are areas in which the majority of its residents are of European descent or new money better blacks. They have so much racism within their party and put Mmusi there to try and confuse us but the real DA membership is no darker than the Ivory foundation makeup shade. They’re also big on calling out the wrongs of the ANC without putting forward what or how they would do better. So no thanks.

Voting for the EFF is also just a bit of a go with the flow LOL. The fighters fight for the sake of fighting. Their politics are nothing but trendy rhetoric. They are populist. They wear overalls to parliament over gucci suits. We see you. I mean at least the party is young but I don’t trust Malema for a second. It’s not like he wasn’t benefiting while in the ANC and it’s corruption. He was complicit. Ndlozi is hot though, I won’t lie. But still no thanks

Voting for COPE who can’t seem to cope is funny. So no thanks

Voting for IFP or PAC as a womxn is like asking for Patriarchy and Xenephobia to double. The “P” in IFP and PAC is for Patriarchy. So no thanks.

Voting for the FFP (VP) ? Ek kan nie.

Sigh, so whatever you do, be strategic with your vote. In a country where the ruling party has got such an overwhelming majority that they feel untouchable, a vote for the opposition is always the clever decision, even if they too are a bit of a joke, ma dahrling!

Dear Africans

Dear Africans

We live in a world that is truly broken. Where we value paper over people. Where we believe that people deserve more respect because they have more digits in their bank accounts. Where we produce enough food to feed the entire planet, yet people still go to bed hungry. A world in which we use distractions and theatrics to trick people into believing that this is the way it ought to be. We make the poor believe that they are where they are because of poor decisions they made. We make them believe that rich people got lucky or knew something they didn’t.

There is no such thing as luck. This is not a terrible twist of fate. It was engineered, constructed and institutionalised. Borders were drawn, agreements were made resources were allocated. Those that carved the maps still own the continents.

This isn’t just about Africa. The third world or the “developing world“ as they call it seems to be tailing far behind the first world. Why? How? Well… You don’t get much time to build and develop when you’re too busy being forced to develop someone else’s backyard.

The United States of America was literally built up on the blood, sweat and tears of Africans. America is the biggest superpower in this world yet those that toiled for it’s wealth are still enslaved in the prison system. They still work for free. If you don’t know about the Thirteenth Amendment, you should look it up.

Europe is also just as guilty, you can’t seriously tell me that you believe that a continent so rich and diverse like Africa can be seen as a charity case. Some of the biggest culprits are Great Britain and France. Several former colonies had to pay a colonial tax to France. Yeah, that’s right. The countries that France voluntarily colonised owe money to France because France believed that these countries should not enjoy the “benefits” of colonialism for free. In countries which refused this, they destroyed things they deemed to be “colonial” such as schools and hospitals etc. Yeah, pretty shocking.

Anyway, the point of my long rant is that we need to switch our perspective and stop being distracted by celebrities and big sporting tournaments. Governments have the power to say “NO”. African leaders can make a choice to not be complicit in the dehumanisation of its people. It doesn’t have to be a choice between getting screwed by the West or getting T-bagged by the Orient. We have been on our knees at the mercy of everyone else for far too long.

Africa has the ability to sustain itself. We do not need to sell our resources for 10c and buy them back for $1000. We need to start focusing on what we need in order to start production in our own backyards. We don’t need loans that have 101 terms and conditions attached to them. All we need is a common goal and a better understanding of each other.

Africans see each other as competition rather than as teammates. We are all in the same boat. We should start acting like it. We have more in common than just our common suffering. Instead of looking down on each other and acting like pick-mes, we ought to focusing on strengthening the African Union and fostering better relations across the continent.

I believe that Africa has a better brighter future for all. We just need to see it and believe it.

Kind Regards
Busi Mjiyakho
A daughter of the soil

Dear Black South Africans #Elections

Dear Black South Africans

We really ought to stop seeing struggle as the only way success can be achieved because this view only applies to black people, especially black womxn.

Black womxn are expected to be mothers and wives and superheroes in a system that works against them based on race and gender. We glorify the struggle our mothers went through to raise us. The fact that they fed us, clothed us, educated us on a measly wage. We praise their tenacity because they were able to stretch R3000 to last the entire month, meanwhile that’s someone’s weekly allowance.

Those who have beaten the odds are glorified because the world told them it was impossible. Don’t get me wrong here, they deserve praise for working hard but we shouldn’t tell people that they will only become diamonds once they undergo extreme pressure because that is simply not the case. Some people are born diamonds.

We get told to not ask for handouts, quotas or grants but to rather work our asses off, meanwhile Chad’s dad owns a company and his uncle is CEO of another and his dad’s best friend is managing partner at the firm we all want to do our articles.

We need to change the conversation and start talking about why the scales are still tilted away from us. Why is it that 25 years after the dawn of democracy our leaders have failed to realise the dream of equality? Why is it that corruption is taken so lightly? Why we are still landless on the soil of our foremothers? Why politicians spend more money in Cubana after the SONA then they do to help students get textbooks and sanitary pad? Why a staggering majority of people continue to support the ANC?

We are constantly told to look forward and to a brighter future but when people are still struggling to get an education, which is a right they are guaranteed by the constitution, when people are sleeping in libraries or in computer labs because rich kids who have apartments, would rather stay in res for a year to enjoy O week, we are really missing the bigger picture.

When we speak of a free and equal South Africa, what does that look like? To me it’s a place where every child, whether historically privileged or not, has the opportunity to pursue their dreams and their passions. A place where everyone contributes to the continent. A place where we trust our elected officials, where we trust our police officers. A place where womxn can feel safe.

Is there a single political party that is out there that is contesting this election that can tell me that this is the future they are fighting for? A just one? Because the ANC, EFF and DA are not it.

Kind Regards
Busi Mjiyakho

In this whole 2018th year of our Lord’t and saviour, I am having to explain to white people why it is not ok for them to ever say the “n word”, even if they’re singing thier favourite song.

Having to teach 20 somethings that racism is not dead nor something that can go away by not speaking about it. That getting over it and simply moving on is not an option while inequality and injustice continues.

Having demonstrate with examples the link between colonialism and poverty in Africa. How Africa isn’t a poor dying dark continent but a rich one which continues to be looted to this day.

Having to, with the aid of a diagram, illustrate how dismantling the systems that uphold white male supremacy is not just a job for the oppressed.

Having to explain intersectionality and how not only is racism an issue for me but also sexism. Having to literally prove to people that the wage gap exist even in their first world havens they call home. Having to explain why it is bullshit for womxn, who work the same job and have the same experience as men, to earn less than men.

Having to explain that I am not the rule but the exception because my grandmother was assisted by her employers in raising me. Having to describe in great detail how growing up in their suburban home granted me access to electricity, water, internet, healthy food, safety, great education, facilities, healthcare, etc. The basics that so many children in my country still do not have.

Having to perform poverty olympics just so we can humanise our stories and show why this scholarship opportunity is so important to us. We’re not here for ourselves. We are here to gather the knowledge and skills required to fix the places we call home.



Terms like “feminazi” and “reverse racism” were created to try make people who champion gender and race equality look bad.

The real reason (some) men and (some) white people fear these movements, aimed at equality, is because they fear we will do unto them what they have and what they continue to do to us.

They make feminism and anti-racism seem like the new sexism and racism, meanwhile the old still exists and is trying very hard to cling onto power.

Right-winger Tomi Lahren said that #BlackLivesMatter was the new KKK and Trevor Noah said, “[nah B! The KKK is very much alive and well]” and then she dared ask “what the KKK did [that was as bad as the slogans she has heard #BLM shout]”

The purpose of this propaganda is to ensure that things remain as they are. Because the idea of reverse racism and sexism is too awful to bear! Imagine men not being able to have a say on what happens to their bodies! The horror!

That time we aren’t currently living in an equal just and fair system… but as long as men and Caucasians aren’t suffering, we can and should ignore the inequality, right?


#NotAllMen = #AllLivesMatter

**An example of how black men “ALL lives matter” gender based violence and try to silence womxn. **

Me: Womxn are getting raped and murdered on a daily basis! We need to do something about this. Please stop silenc….

Man: **interrupts**
What about all the men that get killed and raped? What about them? You don’t care about men! We are victims too! If you weren’t busy calling us trash you’d notice!

Me: But are these men dying at the hands of womxn?

Man: Aha! You see!?! You don’t care about all people? Womxn are evil murderers too! Men die in the mines and in gang related incidents all the time!

Me: If men are dying because of unfair labour practices and gang violence I’m not going to blame womxn for it, I blame capitalistic companies like Lonmin. I blame the governments inaction and police force not being adequately equipped to deal with the issue at hand. When womxn are being raped and murdered by men I’m not going to blame Lonmin, I’m going to call out men.

It’s really not that difficult to grasp. My politics and what I advocate for is consistent. I don’t just speak on gender based violence. So before you attempt to call me out on supposed silence, you should get your facts straight. Don’t detract from this issue.

Man: You’re just seeking attention. Shut up!

#CheckYourPRIVILEGE (classism)

People who live in conveniently situated suburbs, who have never had to queue at dawn and dusk to take public transport. Those whose commute is shorter than 30 minutes. Those who have plenty of frequent flyer points and those who can get from Jozi to Durban in 45 minutes.

The ones who have a domestic worker who cleans their house, does their laundry, and cooks their meals. People who have a gardener who tends to their yards and take out their rubbish.

People who have internet banking and those who shop online and have luxury of avoiding queues.

The ones who have fresh and clean running water in their houses and geysers. The ones whose toilets are located in their houses.

The ones who can turn the lights on with the simple flick of a switch. The ones who have fast uncapped WiFi and printers in their homes.

Those are the first to say sh*t like “we all have the same 24 hours in a day!”

The ones who are so blinded by their privilege that they can’t see how much harder life is for those who don’t live behind high walls and gated communities.


Dear Black Men

Dear black men

I am tired.

As a black womxn, I find it extremely insulting when black men go on and on about racism, as if it’s the ultimate evil in this world, but when I speak about patriarchy, misogyny and sexism, those same black men speak over me and tell me that feminism is a “western tool used to divide black people”.

Those same black men, whose nostrils would flare if a white person dared to speak over them in a conversation about race, are the first to silence us.

The ones who equate the “suffering” they endured from reading a hashtag #menaretrash to the actual violence faced by womxn on a daily basis.

The men that say “all white people are racist” are the first to shout #notallmenwhen we protest about getting raped and murdered on a daily basis. The ones who tell us that Bill Cosby is a victim of a racist justice system.

The ones who talk about land and call us “daughter of the soil” are the first ones to ensure that we end up buried in that soil before we’ve even begun to live.

The ones who justify beatings and abuse by calling the victims gold digging “slay queens” and “disrespectful womxn who didn’t know their place”. Yes, the very same ones that can, in the same breath, reminisce about the days when queens like Cleopatra and Nefertiti ruled, without spotting their own contradiction.

The men we march with, the men we support. The men we give birth to. The men we call obaba. The ones who tell us they are “waiting for us to grow up”. The ones meant to protect us.

The ones who say they will only marry a virgin because any other womxn is a whore. The same ones who sleep with a different womxn every weekend. The ones who are attracted to trans womxn, act on their attraction, and then abuse/murder them the next day because they say they were “tricked”.

The men who say that “birds of a feather flock together” when referring to supposedly “loose womxn”, yet feel they can dissociate themselves from their violent murderous rapey friends.

The same ones who were relaxing their hair in high school and saying they only date blonde “dolls” who were rolling their Rs like “yarrrr brrruu” are the same ones saying we are betraying the struggle when we refuse to entertain them, as if now, as black womxn we need to donate our vaginas to the struggle.

Black men hate black womxn.

I’m tired. I’m so so tired.

Kind Regards
Busi Mjiyakho

Dear white genocide believers

Dear white genocide believers
If you think there’s a genocide going on against white people in South Africa, and it is within your power, I really do suggest you leave. No one has the time or patience to entertain your delusions. We have bigger problems as a country.
Should you leave? Yes. Should you be given priority over actual refugees whose lives are actually under threat? Hell to the mother effing no. But, yeah.. Go!
Are farm attacks real? Yes, of course and it’s horrific that people get robbed or murdered but crime is not a white farmer problem. In fact white South Africans are statistically the safest demographic.
“While white South Africans account for nearly 9% of the population they account for just 1.8% of murder victims.”
The attacks are not motivated by race, they are motivated by poverty and criminality. In these attacks black farm workers are also killed, but I bet you didn’t even notice that because what value do black lives have?
If you live in an upper middle class suburb you are not the #1 target for crime. People who live in townships are the ones who should be marching and protesting about the murder rates and crime in general. But privilege has a tendency to blind people and make them believe that they are targets and at the centre of the universe.
REALITY CHECK: If black people wanted to kill all white people in South Africa we could do it in a few days. Most white households have black domestic workers and black gardeners who have access to their homes. If black people really wanted to exterminate white people we could do it. But you know what? That’s not our thing. We are a people who subscribe to ubuntu! We won’t do to you what your ancestors did to us.
What we do want though is the sharing of wealth in this country with the people who work the fields, the mines, the factories, etc. It’s not good enough that 24 years after apartheid ended, black people are still subjected to an undignified and landless existence.
I know what you’ll say, “it’s the black ANC government’s fault that black people’s lives aren’t improving!” And I agree it’s their fault that we aren’t seeing much improvement but it is the colonialists and white NP government’s fault that black people’s lives were so bad to begin with. If you hadn’t stolen the land and resources and subjected black people to your weird superiority complexes we wouldn’t be in this position.
So what do we do now? Well the government needs to come up with a feasible way to ensure that resources and wealth are shared and, yes this will include land being given back to the sons and daughters of the soil amongst other things. Education standards need to improve. Education needs to become free and accessible to all. Service delivery needs to become a thing, not just in Constantia but in Khayelitsha too.
So if this doesn’t sound like something you will get on board with then Australia is that way —->
Ps Please take Steve Hofmeyr with you!
Kind Regards
Busi Mjiyakho

Dear Privileged People

Dear privileged people
It’s very obvious that some of us were born more privileged than others. Like thank god that I was born without any physical disabilities or without gender dysmorphia. Thank god that I was born heterosexual. Thank god that I wasn’t born in a war torn country. Thank god that I was born into a christian home in a predominantly christian state.
I am not saying that there is anything wrong with being born disabled, queer, non binary, muslim, hindu, etc. I am saying that the way society is set up, life is that much harder for you if you fall into these categories.
None of us chose any of these things and in most cases we have no power to change them. That is called privilege and disadvantage. Some people really do win the birth lottery by being born a right-handed, cishet white male, without any disabilities, in a 1st world country to an upper middle class family.
Like congrats… 🎉🎊You have a super duper head start in life that you did not earn. Whether you choose to work hard after that is up to you, even though you have all of the tools at your disposal. The race is yours to lose. For goodness sake the idea of success is a white man in a suit.
So when people who weren’t born with the same attributes complain or point out how much harder life is for them, because of the same birth lottery, don’t preach hard work to them. Don’t tell them to get over it, because they can’t. The world won’t let them forget. It’s a very unforgiving place.
When people who are previously and currently disadvantaged celebrate a win, whether it be an athlete that represents their minority or it be a movie #blackpanther, let them have their moment. The Lord’t knows society has been celebrating cishet white males since the dawn of colonialism. If you don’t like it, you literally have a world class selection of people who look like you who can rather look to for inspiration. We on the other hand, are only just beginning to explore our potential. #wakandaforever
Learn about your privilege, understand your privilege, accept your privilege and then use it to make the world a better place.
Kind Regards
Busi Skinn’e Mjiyakho


One of the biggest fears that cishet men have is going to prison. This has nothing to do with being detained or trapped behind bars, no… This is about the fear of getting raped. Most, if not all, men are terrified of the idea of another person taking away their power, dignity and ability to consent.
The funny thing about this is that the fear men have when it comes to going to prison is the same fear womxn have about stepping outside and in some cases that fear exists in their homes and supposed places of safety. We are constantly afraid and constantly paranoid. Our fears are valid, our paranoia is valid.
So before you say #NotAllMen or #WomxnAreTrash, just remember how men have created and sustained an environment where womxn do not have a single space in which they can exist without fear while men only have that feeling in prison.
SO yeah, #ALLMEN


Do I hate white people?

I don’t have a problem with white people. In fact some of my favourite people are white. I have a problem with the system of oppression called whiteness.

I don’t have a problem with men. In fact I am head over heels in love with a man. I have a problem with the system of oppression called patriarchy, hyper masculinity, rape culture and misogyny.

I don’t have a problem with cishet people. In fact I am cishet myself. I do however have a problem with the system of oppression which violently erases queer bodies and enforces cis heteronormativity.

I don’t have a problem with able bodied people. In fact I am able bodied myself. I do however have a problem with the system of oppression called ableism as it conveniently forgets that access is meant for all and all people should be able to enjoy their basic rights.

I do not have a problem with rich people. In fact some of my closest friends are ballers shot callers. I do however have an issue with classism and capitalism. As it only favours those who already have and most of us, don’t. It places a price tag on human life dependant on how much someone has or the accent someone speaks with.

I know it’s hard to separate the people from the structures but it’s important to be able to recognise that we’re all human and these things have been thrust on to us since birth and that we can only be blamed for refusing to take responsibility for the role we play in maintaining these violent structures.

You aren’t bad simply for being white or male or cishet or able bodied or rich, you are however an asshole for being these things and not accepting your unearned privilege.




“I asked my friends on Facebook which names they thought were the most mispronounced and here they are”:

1. Msizi
2. Nqobile
3. Nhlanhla, Sihle
4. Xaba
5. Xolani
6. Nkululeko
7. Nongcebo
8. Sinoxolo
9. Mfundo
10. Xolile
11. Mpendulo
12. Njoko
13. Phiwokuhle
14. Sicebile
15. Mchunu
16. Qobo
17. Lwazi
18. Busisiwe
19. Lulama
20. Thamsanqa
21. Bheki / Mbeki
23. Ziphozenkosi

Clicking with uBusi | isiZulu Pronunciation Lesson 1: Izilwane / Animals

Clicking with uBusi | isiZulu Pronunciation lesson 1: Izilwane / Animals

To all the people who grabbed a copy of the isiZulu vocab list. I will also be doing pronunciation videos weekly!

Politicians in Africa

African kids dream of being politicians because they want the opportunity to uplift their own lives and the lives of their loved ones. This is because that’s what the current leadership is like in Africa. People only help themselves and their families when they are in the position to help their nation.

We need to do better. Politics and leadership is not just about your own needs and wants. You are elected because people believe in your abilities to serve the people not just your squad.

I hope that I can make the most impact on people’s lives who I’ll never meet rather than my close knit circle of friends.


Even if the government were to take out a loan in order to fund free education, for all, from pre school all the way to PhD level, it would be worth it after a couple of years. It would be the best investment we could make. #MaximumReturns

If our politicians could just stop with the corruption for long enough to consider what’s best for the entire population then they’d see this.

South Africans are already talented and resilient without free and accessible education. Now imagine how grayyyt we would be if education and skills were available to all? #Firstworldvibes

If we funded all students, not only in traditional institutions like UCT and WITS but also FETs and technical universities, we would see a shift in society. Education would become tangible and accessible to even those who had given up and dropped out because they didn’t see the possibility of ever taking their studies further.

We would be saying to every person living in South Africa, young and old, “hey, you have a bright future!”

Education is a right. It’s not a privilege and so it must not be commodified. It needs to be brought to the masses. It must be as abundant as the air we breathe.

Studies show that you’re more likely to go to university and pursue a degree of your parents have degrees. In other words, if you educate a child, you are educating generations to come.

Our efforts and spirits to fight for free quality decolonised and intersectional education must not dwindle. We must stay on this course as this is our generational mission.


Dear Men

TW: rape

Dear men

Even if you saw me walking around wearing barely anything at all on the street, it doesn’t mean I’m asking for anything. In fact it probably means I’m trying to get from point A to point B.

If your thoughts are “she’s asking for it” or “what does she expect, we’re men?” Then you are the problem.

Babies get raped, please explain what babies are wearing that is sexually provocative?

Men get raped in prison, what are they wearing then that is sexually provocative? Orange jumpsuits?

People joke about never wanting to drop the soap in the shower because that’s seen as an invitation for non consensual anal sex. Is it not then clear that outfits or the victim’s actions are not the problem here but men’s entitlement?

Your entitlement is the issue. Men rape not because they are horny. They rape because they feel like they are entitled to the sex that is not being offered. They feel like you are advertising something that you’re not selling and so they feel cheated.

Men grope and touch womxn because they feel entitled to our bodies like we exist merely for them to touch us.

Men rape because they want to show that they have the power to take what isn’t theirs to take in the first place.

Men cat-call because they think womxn wake up every morning and get ready just for them and their attention.

Men send unsolicited dick pics because they think we should be grateful to lay our eyes on their shrivelled tiny manhoods.

Men rape trans womxn and abuse womxn who wear makeup because they feel that these women wear makeup to fool them instead of… hmm I don’t know perhaps living their truth and expressing themselves in the way they feel inside?

Men rape their girlfriends and wives because they feel entitled to their bodies as if they own them as as if being in a relationship with someone means you owe them sex.

A guy in the club will buy you one round of drinks in the club and think you owe him 3 rounds of sex. It’s ridiculous. I can drink 4 bottles of your champagne and go home and sleep alone in my bed without even giving you my number. I don’t owe you jack Shit.

I am so tired of victim blaming and shaming. It’s not our fault. We are not asking for it. We are tired of being silenced. We refuse to keep quiet.

Kind Regards
Busi Mjiyakho
A survivor


Dear black “South Africans”

Dear black “South Africans” listen, until we can speak our mother tongues freely without fear of being branded as “farmish”, we are not free.
Until people stop asking us “can I call you…x instead?”, we are not free.
Until we stop giving our children English names for the convenience of the English speaking world, we are not free.
Until we can love and celebrate black womxn regardless of their skin tones, we are not free.
Until we can stop policing black hairstyles, we are not free.
Until we can accept our Nigerian, Congolese, Somalian, Zimbabwean, etc brothers and sisters as we see accept our Xhosa, Zulu, Sotho, Venda etc brothers and sisters, we are not free (BORDERS ARE COLONIAL CONSTRUCTS!)
Until we stop equating success with whiteness, we are not free.
Until we stop believing Jesus was white, we are not free.
Until we stop believing that homosexuality was introduced by white people, we are not free.
Until we stop teaching African history from a European perspective, we are not free.
Until our 9 African languages are ACTUALLY PRACTICALLY seen as official we can never consider ourselves as free.

Inde le ndlela but we can get there if we try.

Kind Regards
Busi Mjiyakho

The future is in our hands

Does anyone else get stressed about how they’re going to raise their unborn kids and adopted kids to be decent human beings?

Does anyone else toss and turn about raising their future sons in a manner that destroys patriarchy and rape culture?

Does anyone else have sleepless nights about teaching their daughters that there are no limits to what they can achieve?

Does anyone else struggle to catch ubuthongo when they think about how early in life they have to teach their kids that consent is not the absence of no but the presence of yes?

Does anyone else get anxiety about how to go about correctly teaching their children about acceptance regardless of sex, gender, race, culture, nationality, sexual orientation, ability, class, etc?

Does anyone else get nervous about these things, or is it just me?

IsiZulu Base Vocabulary

My boyfriend is currently learning isiZulu. He went online and found a standard list of words you ought to know when learning a new language. I then translated the words into isiZulu. The vocabulary list contains about 600 English words with their isiZulu translations. If anyone is interested in getting a copy of this list follow this link HERE:


Mandela Day Thoughts

A lot of South Africans still have hope for our country. Unfortunately most people are looking for a messiah. Haibo, we need a wake up call. There is no Azor Ahai to save us and lead us through the long night(GoT reference). We need to realise that the power for real change lies in our hands and not the government’s. Placing a new president is not going to bring about the change we need. No policy is going to change our attitudes. We, the people, have to take matters into our own hands. I have said this time and time again, voting once every couple of years does not make you an active citizen. I mean, don’t get me wrong, voter turnout is crucial for the running of a successful democracy but it is not the only thing we can do to bring about change.

What is an active citizen? Someone with a positive attitude, hope and the willingness to change their way of thinking first before taking it to the streets. I would say that everything begins at home and in our small communities. We need to start having real conversations with our kids, siblings, parents, grandparents, cousins, etc. Facebook should not be the be all and end all of your activism when you can’t even talk to your siblings about patriarchy. We need to somehow get out of this Rainbow Nation hangover we are currently in. It’s not enough to call ourselves a Rainbow Nation if we are only willing to tolerate the other colours on a superficial basis.

We need to talk with purpose and listen with understanding. We need to be able to empathise with other people’s feelings. We need to understand why the past is so important and why people keep referring back to colonialism and apartheid as the root of our current problems.

Black people feel cheated in this democracy– and it should be evident why this is the case. Since apartheid ended, how did black people’s lives change? Is the vote enough to call yourself free? I think not. Black people still live in terrible conditions. Townships can be likened to concentration camps, minus the gas chambers.

Yes, we can blame the ANC for the conditions getting worse instead of improving but prior to 1994, conditions weren’t ideal either. So we ought to examine the inception of all these current problems we face. Black people don’t own their ancestral lands. We can blame the government for why the land was never redistributed but as to the start of the issue ie land dispossession, we can look to the Glen Gray Act (1894), Natives Land Act (1913)Population Registration Act (1950), Group Areas Act (1950), and the Natives Resettlement Act (1954).

It is important to understand why black people are, in general, in a worse off position than…let’s say white people. Why? Why should we keep bringing up the past? The answer is simple really…

If we do not consider the context then imagine how this might appear to children? The world around us confirms white supremacy. People with decent jobs, big houses and cars are white. The people who clean up after the rich are black. To a child or someone else who does not know the history, white people simply work harder than the rest. Black people simply belong in those positions or they are too lazy to study and work to get themselves out of their situations. We hopefully know this is not the truth and that black people have been (historically and continue to be) prevented from doing better.

White people in South African live in fear. They used to live very safe and comfortable lives in a police state that protected them politically, economically and socially. Now things are starting to change. (Some) white people feel that black people are targeting them. This is not a completely unreasonable thought because usually when you wrong someone they seek revenge. Fortunately most black people are oblivious to this so called white genocide (because it’s not a thing). White people also feel threatened in the work place because of affirmative action and quotas– even though statistics still show that white people earn more than black people on average and also unemployment rates for white people are super low.

We can’t dismiss people’s anger or people’s fears. All we can do is try to get to the root of it all so we can attempt to understand it and be able to empathise with people, no matter how irrational their fears are. Being a better citizen starts with being better to those around you. Your colleagues, employees, employers, etc. Take 67 minutes to chat to them, ask them questions. Ask them about their hopes and dreams. Ask them about their fears and concerns. I think you will find that most of us just want to be able to provide for our families and live in a better country.



Black men: White people have oppressed black people for long enough. This needs to end now! We are willing to die for our freedom.

Black womxn: Agreed, but we also want to simultaneously tackle issues that womxn face such as gender inequality, sexism, patriarchy, misogyny, rape culture…

Black men: Shhh my sister, daughter of the soil! Don’t derail this movement. Don’t let white people influence you with these modern things that go against our culture. Let’s focus on the real enemy, which is whiteness.

Black womxn: 😩🙄

White womxn: Come over here! Together let’s fight against gender based violence. Patriarchy must fall! Come on girls!

Black womxn: Yes, finally! Let’s also keep in mind that there are many issues that we face not only as womxn but as black people too. Like systemic racism, police brutality and the war on “drugs” which is actually the new Jim Crow.

White womxn: **silence for 5 minutes**

Let’s talk about cutting tampon tax! Whooo! Let’s rally girls!

Black Trans womxn: Can we talk about the struggles trans womxn face? Can we talk about the on going killings, rapes and ostracism that we face and other queer folks?

(Black/white) Cishet womxn: But you don’t face all the struggles real womxn face, you might have penis privilege.

Black Trans womxn: 😱😭😡


The importance of intersectionality 💯

#ZumaMustFall / #PeoplesMarch / #AntiZumaMarch playlist


1. Kumbaya
2. I said a boom-a-chicka-boom
3. G-R-O-another O-V-Y give me a Groovy
4. The more we are together, together, together (cause your friends are my friends)
5. Our team’s dynamite (don’t mess with dynamite)
6. In-Khosi Sick-a-lay-lah i-Afrika (die Stem)
7. The wheels on the bus
8. We’ve got the power (yes we do, we’ve got the power how about you?)
9. We will rock you!
10. If you’re happy and you know it (clap your hands)


If you never spoke in defense of the poor before the #junkstatus, please spare us now.

Don’t act like the landless Azanians, who are being deprived of their dignity on the daily, are your key concern. If that was the case you would have put your money and mouth behind the future of the country instead of vilifying them.

You’re only speaking out now because you’re starting to feel the effects of an economy you thought was yours to control.


**side note**

I do not support what is going on. I do not think #junkstatus is good for anyone. I just think that it is ridiculous to ignore people’s real motivations behind their newly found protests passion.


I think it’s easier to allow injustice to continue because we don’t see each other as human beings. We strip ourselves of the very fundamental teachings of Ubuntu. Umuntu ungumuntu ngabantu. If you don’t see other human beings how can you truly be human? It is only through others that we find our humanity.

People are suffering and we rationalise why it is that they have to endure this and it’s bullshit. We use religion to rationalise this suffering. We use work ethic to justify poverty.
We allow people to go to bed hungry even though we always throw out food. We allow people to be deprived of their human rights because we think there’s nothing we can do, “they should have worked harder.” We allow womxn to be raped because “they should not have worn such a short skirt.”

We use all these excuses to justify why the world is the way it is and at some point we need to stop.

When will we realise that the world is the way it is because we allow it to be so. We are the society we always complain about. We are all complicit.

“It’s not about race! It’s about neatness.”

When you tell a black child that the state of their natural hair is not neat what else are you saying about blackness? Are you saying that to be black and neat does not go hand in hand? Are you saying that unless you chemically straighten your hair to match what caucasians achieve naturally, then you can never be neat? Are you saying that blackness is against the school’s code of conduct? Are you saying that a code of conduct can be above the Constitution?

Have you lost your mind?


How do I feel about the election results? I’m optimistic.

Because this means the next 2-3 years are going to be lit. We’re going to see service delivery like never before. Both the ANC and DA will do the damn thing. They will be slaying their municipalities and doing it for the gods. We will all be yelling “yaaaas queen”.

This is because the ANC finally has a reason to have uvalo. The DA can officially call itself an opposition-nyana party. The EFF needs to continue exposing the lies, putting pressure and causing terror in parliament. The IFP must also giya and gida in Nkandla just because.

Thank you to everyone who went to vote. You also did the damn thing. No one can rest on their laurels because I think it’s clear that dabbing and selling us dreams is not enough.

The Rand is also on the up and up so that’s cool. Kumnand’ emasabhabsini aseMzansi. I hope the poor can only reap the benefits of all of this.