Dear Privileged People

Dear privileged people
It’s very obvious that some of us were born more privileged than others. Like thank god that I was born without any physical disabilities or without gender dysmorphia. Thank god that I was born heterosexual. Thank god that I wasn’t born in a war torn country. Thank god that I was born into a christian home in a predominantly christian state.
I am not saying that there is anything wrong with being born disabled, queer, non binary, muslim, hindu, etc. I am saying that the way society is set up, life is that much harder for you if you fall into these categories.
None of us chose any of these things and in most cases we have no power to change them. That is called privilege and disadvantage. Some people really do win the birth lottery by being born a right-handed, cishet white male, without any disabilities, in a 1st world country to an upper middle class family.
Like congrats… 🎉🎊You have a super duper head start in life that you did not earn. Whether you choose to work hard after that is up to you, even though you have all of the tools at your disposal. The race is yours to lose. For goodness sake the idea of success is a white man in a suit.
So when people who weren’t born with the same attributes complain or point out how much harder life is for them, because of the same birth lottery, don’t preach hard work to them. Don’t tell them to get over it, because they can’t. The world won’t let them forget. It’s a very unforgiving place.
When people who are previously and currently disadvantaged celebrate a win, whether it be an athlete that represents their minority or it be a movie #blackpanther, let them have their moment. The Lord’t knows society has been celebrating cishet white males since the dawn of colonialism. If you don’t like it, you literally have a world class selection of people who look like you who can rather look to for inspiration. We on the other hand, are only just beginning to explore our potential. #wakandaforever
Learn about your privilege, understand your privilege, accept your privilege and then use it to make the world a better place.
Kind Regards
Busi Skinn’e Mjiyakho


One of the biggest fears that cishet men have is going to prison. This has nothing to do with being detained or trapped behind bars, no… This is about the fear of getting raped. Most, if not all, men are terrified of the idea of another person taking away their power, dignity and ability to consent.
The funny thing about this is that the fear men have when it comes to going to prison is the same fear womxn have about stepping outside and in some cases that fear exists in their homes and supposed places of safety. We are constantly afraid and constantly paranoid. Our fears are valid, our paranoia is valid.
So before you say #NotAllMen or #WomxnAreTrash, just remember how men have created and sustained an environment where womxn do not have a single space in which they can exist without fear while men only have that feeling in prison.
SO yeah, #ALLMEN


Do I hate white people?

I don’t have a problem with white people. In fact some of my favourite people are white. I have a problem with the system of oppression called whiteness.

I don’t have a problem with men. In fact I am head over heels in love with a man. I have a problem with the system of oppression called patriarchy, hyper masculinity, rape culture and misogyny.

I don’t have a problem with cishet people. In fact I am cishet myself. I do however have a problem with the system of oppression which violently erases queer bodies and enforces cis heteronormativity.

I don’t have a problem with able bodied people. In fact I am able bodied myself. I do however have a problem with the system of oppression called ableism as it conveniently forgets that access is meant for all and all people should be able to enjoy their basic rights.

I do not have a problem with rich people. In fact some of my closest friends are ballers shot callers. I do however have an issue with classism and capitalism. As it only favours those who already have and most of us, don’t. It places a price tag on human life dependant on how much someone has or the accent someone speaks with.

I know it’s hard to separate the people from the structures but it’s important to be able to recognise that we’re all human and these things have been thrust on to us since birth and that we can only be blamed for refusing to take responsibility for the role we play in maintaining these violent structures.

You aren’t bad simply for being white or male or cishet or able bodied or rich, you are however an asshole for being these things and not accepting your unearned privilege.




“I asked my friends on Facebook which names they thought were the most mispronounced and here they are”:

1. Msizi
2. Nqobile
3. Nhlanhla, Sihle
4. Xaba
5. Xolani
6. Nkululeko
7. Nongcebo
8. Sinoxolo
9. Mfundo
10. Xolile
11. Mpendulo
12. Njoko
13. Phiwokuhle
14. Sicebile
15. Mchunu
16. Qobo
17. Lwazi
18. Busisiwe
19. Lulama
20. Thamsanqa
21. Bheki / Mbeki
23. Ziphozenkosi

Clicking with uBusi | isiZulu Pronunciation Lesson 1: Izilwane / Animals

Clicking with uBusi | isiZulu Pronunciation lesson 1: Izilwane / Animals

To all the people who grabbed a copy of the isiZulu vocab list. I will also be doing pronunciation videos weekly!

Politicians in Africa

African kids dream of being politicians because they want the opportunity to uplift their own lives and the lives of their loved ones. This is because that’s what the current leadership is like in Africa. People only help themselves and their families when they are in the position to help their nation.

We need to do better. Politics and leadership is not just about your own needs and wants. You are elected because people believe in your abilities to serve the people not just your squad.

I hope that I can make the most impact on people’s lives who I’ll never meet rather than my close knit circle of friends.


Even if the government were to take out a loan in order to fund free education, for all, from pre school all the way to PhD level, it would be worth it after a couple of years. It would be the best investment we could make. #MaximumReturns

If our politicians could just stop with the corruption for long enough to consider what’s best for the entire population then they’d see this.

South Africans are already talented and resilient without free and accessible education. Now imagine how grayyyt we would be if education and skills were available to all? #Firstworldvibes

If we funded all students, not only in traditional institutions like UCT and WITS but also FETs and technical universities, we would see a shift in society. Education would become tangible and accessible to even those who had given up and dropped out because they didn’t see the possibility of ever taking their studies further.

We would be saying to every person living in South Africa, young and old, “hey, you have a bright future!”

Education is a right. It’s not a privilege and so it must not be commodified. It needs to be brought to the masses. It must be as abundant as the air we breathe.

Studies show that you’re more likely to go to university and pursue a degree of your parents have degrees. In other words, if you educate a child, you are educating generations to come.

Our efforts and spirits to fight for free quality decolonised and intersectional education must not dwindle. We must stay on this course as this is our generational mission.


Dear Men

TW: rape

Dear men

Even if you saw me walking around wearing barely anything at all on the street, it doesn’t mean I’m asking for anything. In fact it probably means I’m trying to get from point A to point B.

If your thoughts are “she’s asking for it” or “what does she expect, we’re men?” Then you are the problem.

Babies get raped, please explain what babies are wearing that is sexually provocative?

Men get raped in prison, what are they wearing then that is sexually provocative? Orange jumpsuits?

People joke about never wanting to drop the soap in the shower because that’s seen as an invitation for non consensual anal sex. Is it not then clear that outfits or the victim’s actions are not the problem here but men’s entitlement?

Your entitlement is the issue. Men rape not because they are horny. They rape because they feel like they are entitled to the sex that is not being offered. They feel like you are advertising something that you’re not selling and so they feel cheated.

Men grope and touch womxn because they feel entitled to our bodies like we exist merely for them to touch us.

Men rape because they want to show that they have the power to take what isn’t theirs to take in the first place.

Men cat-call because they think womxn wake up every morning and get ready just for them and their attention.

Men send unsolicited dick pics because they think we should be grateful to lay our eyes on their shrivelled tiny manhoods.

Men rape trans womxn and abuse womxn who wear makeup because they feel that these women wear makeup to fool them instead of… hmm I don’t know perhaps living their truth and expressing themselves in the way they feel inside?

Men rape their girlfriends and wives because they feel entitled to their bodies as if they own them as as if being in a relationship with someone means you owe them sex.

A guy in the club will buy you one round of drinks in the club and think you owe him 3 rounds of sex. It’s ridiculous. I can drink 4 bottles of your champagne and go home and sleep alone in my bed without even giving you my number. I don’t owe you jack Shit.

I am so tired of victim blaming and shaming. It’s not our fault. We are not asking for it. We are tired of being silenced. We refuse to keep quiet.

Kind Regards
Busi Mjiyakho
A survivor


Dear black “South Africans”

Dear black “South Africans” listen, until we can speak our mother tongues freely without fear of being branded as “farmish”, we are not free.
Until people stop asking us “can I call you…x instead?”, we are not free.
Until we stop giving our children English names for the convenience of the English speaking world, we are not free.
Until we can love and celebrate black womxn regardless of their skin tones, we are not free.
Until we can stop policing black hairstyles, we are not free.
Until we can accept our Nigerian, Congolese, Somalian, Zimbabwean, etc brothers and sisters as we see accept our Xhosa, Zulu, Sotho, Venda etc brothers and sisters, we are not free (BORDERS ARE COLONIAL CONSTRUCTS!)
Until we stop equating success with whiteness, we are not free.
Until we stop believing Jesus was white, we are not free.
Until we stop believing that homosexuality was introduced by white people, we are not free.
Until we stop teaching African history from a European perspective, we are not free.
Until our 9 African languages are ACTUALLY PRACTICALLY seen as official we can never consider ourselves as free.

Inde le ndlela but we can get there if we try.

Kind Regards
Busi Mjiyakho

The future is in our hands

Does anyone else get stressed about how they’re going to raise their unborn kids and adopted kids to be decent human beings?

Does anyone else toss and turn about raising their future sons in a manner that destroys patriarchy and rape culture?

Does anyone else have sleepless nights about teaching their daughters that there are no limits to what they can achieve?

Does anyone else struggle to catch ubuthongo when they think about how early in life they have to teach their kids that consent is not the absence of no but the presence of yes?

Does anyone else get anxiety about how to go about correctly teaching their children about acceptance regardless of sex, gender, race, culture, nationality, sexual orientation, ability, class, etc?

Does anyone else get nervous about these things, or is it just me?

IsiZulu Base Vocabulary

My boyfriend is currently learning isiZulu. He went online and found a standard list of words you ought to know when learning a new language. I then translated the words into isiZulu. The vocabulary list contains about 600 English words with their isiZulu translations. If anyone is interested in getting a copy of this list follow this link HERE:


Mandela Day Thoughts

A lot of South Africans still have hope for our country. Unfortunately most people are looking for a messiah. Haibo, we need a wake up call. There is no Azor Ahai to save us and lead us through the long night(GoT reference). We need to realise that the power for real change lies in our hands and not the government’s. Placing a new president is not going to bring about the change we need. No policy is going to change our attitudes. We, the people, have to take matters into our own hands. I have said this time and time again, voting once every couple of years does not make you an active citizen. I mean, don’t get me wrong, voter turnout is crucial for the running of a successful democracy but it is not the only thing we can do to bring about change.

What is an active citizen? Someone with a positive attitude, hope and the willingness to change their way of thinking first before taking it to the streets. I would say that everything begins at home and in our small communities. We need to start having real conversations with our kids, siblings, parents, grandparents, cousins, etc. Facebook should not be the be all and end all of your activism when you can’t even talk to your siblings about patriarchy. We need to somehow get out of this Rainbow Nation hangover we are currently in. It’s not enough to call ourselves a Rainbow Nation if we are only willing to tolerate the other colours on a superficial basis.

We need to talk with purpose and listen with understanding. We need to be able to empathise with other people’s feelings. We need to understand why the past is so important and why people keep referring back to colonialism and apartheid as the root of our current problems.

Black people feel cheated in this democracy– and it should be evident why this is the case. Since apartheid ended, how did black people’s lives change? Is the vote enough to call yourself free? I think not. Black people still live in terrible conditions. Townships can be likened to concentration camps, minus the gas chambers.

Yes, we can blame the ANC for the conditions getting worse instead of improving but prior to 1994, conditions weren’t ideal either. So we ought to examine the inception of all these current problems we face. Black people don’t own their ancestral lands. We can blame the government for why the land was never redistributed but as to the start of the issue ie land dispossession, we can look to the Glen Gray Act (1894), Natives Land Act (1913)Population Registration Act (1950), Group Areas Act (1950), and the Natives Resettlement Act (1954).

It is important to understand why black people are, in general, in a worse off position than…let’s say white people. Why? Why should we keep bringing up the past? The answer is simple really…

If we do not consider the context then imagine how this might appear to children? The world around us confirms white supremacy. People with decent jobs, big houses and cars are white. The people who clean up after the rich are black. To a child or someone else who does not know the history, white people simply work harder than the rest. Black people simply belong in those positions or they are too lazy to study and work to get themselves out of their situations. We hopefully know this is not the truth and that black people have been (historically and continue to be) prevented from doing better.

White people in South African live in fear. They used to live very safe and comfortable lives in a police state that protected them politically, economically and socially. Now things are starting to change. (Some) white people feel that black people are targeting them. This is not a completely unreasonable thought because usually when you wrong someone they seek revenge. Fortunately most black people are oblivious to this so called white genocide (because it’s not a thing). White people also feel threatened in the work place because of affirmative action and quotas– even though statistics still show that white people earn more than black people on average and also unemployment rates for white people are super low.

We can’t dismiss people’s anger or people’s fears. All we can do is try to get to the root of it all so we can attempt to understand it and be able to empathise with people, no matter how irrational their fears are. Being a better citizen starts with being better to those around you. Your colleagues, employees, employers, etc. Take 67 minutes to chat to them, ask them questions. Ask them about their hopes and dreams. Ask them about their fears and concerns. I think you will find that most of us just want to be able to provide for our families and live in a better country.



Black men: White people have oppressed black people for long enough. This needs to end now! We are willing to die for our freedom.

Black womxn: Agreed, but we also want to simultaneously tackle issues that womxn face such as gender inequality, sexism, patriarchy, misogyny, rape culture…

Black men: Shhh my sister, daughter of the soil! Don’t derail this movement. Don’t let white people influence you with these modern things that go against our culture. Let’s focus on the real enemy, which is whiteness.

Black womxn: 😩🙄

White womxn: Come over here! Together let’s fight against gender based violence. Patriarchy must fall! Come on girls!

Black womxn: Yes, finally! Let’s also keep in mind that there are many issues that we face not only as womxn but as black people too. Like systemic racism, police brutality and the war on “drugs” which is actually the new Jim Crow.

White womxn: **silence for 5 minutes**

Let’s talk about cutting tampon tax! Whooo! Let’s rally girls!

Black Trans womxn: Can we talk about the struggles trans womxn face? Can we talk about the on going killings, rapes and ostracism that we face and other queer folks?

(Black/white) Cishet womxn: But you don’t face all the struggles real womxn face, you might have penis privilege.

Black Trans womxn: 😱😭😡


The importance of intersectionality 💯

#ZumaMustFall / #PeoplesMarch / #AntiZumaMarch playlist


1. Kumbaya
2. I said a boom-a-chicka-boom
3. G-R-O-another O-V-Y give me a Groovy
4. The more we are together, together, together (cause your friends are my friends)
5. Our team’s dynamite (don’t mess with dynamite)
6. In-Khosi Sick-a-lay-lah i-Afrika (die Stem)
7. The wheels on the bus
8. We’ve got the power (yes we do, we’ve got the power how about you?)
9. We will rock you!
10. If you’re happy and you know it (clap your hands)


If you never spoke in defense of the poor before the #junkstatus, please spare us now.

Don’t act like the landless Azanians, who are being deprived of their dignity on the daily, are your key concern. If that was the case you would have put your money and mouth behind the future of the country instead of vilifying them.

You’re only speaking out now because you’re starting to feel the effects of an economy you thought was yours to control.


**side note**

I do not support what is going on. I do not think #junkstatus is good for anyone. I just think that it is ridiculous to ignore people’s real motivations behind their newly found protests passion.


I think it’s easier to allow injustice to continue because we don’t see each other as human beings. We strip ourselves of the very fundamental teachings of Ubuntu. Umuntu ungumuntu ngabantu. If you don’t see other human beings how can you truly be human? It is only through others that we find our humanity.

People are suffering and we rationalise why it is that they have to endure this and it’s bullshit. We use religion to rationalise this suffering. We use work ethic to justify poverty.
We allow people to go to bed hungry even though we always throw out food. We allow people to be deprived of their human rights because we think there’s nothing we can do, “they should have worked harder.” We allow womxn to be raped because “they should not have worn such a short skirt.”

We use all these excuses to justify why the world is the way it is and at some point we need to stop.

When will we realise that the world is the way it is because we allow it to be so. We are the society we always complain about. We are all complicit.

“It’s not about race! It’s about neatness.”

When you tell a black child that the state of their natural hair is not neat what else are you saying about blackness? Are you saying that to be black and neat does not go hand in hand? Are you saying that unless you chemically straighten your hair to match what caucasians achieve naturally, then you can never be neat? Are you saying that blackness is against the school’s code of conduct? Are you saying that a code of conduct can be above the Constitution?

Have you lost your mind?


How do I feel about the election results? I’m optimistic.

Because this means the next 2-3 years are going to be lit. We’re going to see service delivery like never before. Both the ANC and DA will do the damn thing. They will be slaying their municipalities and doing it for the gods. We will all be yelling “yaaaas queen”.

This is because the ANC finally has a reason to have uvalo. The DA can officially call itself an opposition-nyana party. The EFF needs to continue exposing the lies, putting pressure and causing terror in parliament. The IFP must also giya and gida in Nkandla just because.

Thank you to everyone who went to vote. You also did the damn thing. No one can rest on their laurels because I think it’s clear that dabbing and selling us dreams is not enough.

The Rand is also on the up and up so that’s cool. Kumnand’ emasabhabsini aseMzansi. I hope the poor can only reap the benefits of all of this.